for your next opportunity to ask someone to coffee? After all if it is just coffee and a conversation, it is just coffee and a conversation.
Meet at a mutually agreed upon public place, spend 30 to 60 minutes chatting. Listen to what they have to say, remember they want to hear about you, just reveal enough to keep them interested if you are. There is always a second date opportunity should you both want one.
Your first introduction (date) should be lite, fun, show your best. After all if you unload everything on the first date, the other person may believe there is more coming… who wants all the baggage. Wait, we all have baggage of some kind; leftover from our past relationships, experiences, jobs, and other interactions. Just because one previous Bob or Sally treated you badly does not mean all Sally’s and Bob’s will.
Elite-Introductions is a place where you could just hang out as well. Drop someone a note, gift(virtual), or other. Start a local group, open discussion, or an event. These areas are for you to use. They are free to try.